As we are ending our 2021 chapter and transiting into 2022, we might find ourselves reflecting about the past year, the new year or both. The thought of moving onto a new year can prompt fear in some and eagerness in others. We may feel a pressure or desire to set new and meaningful goals/intentions to hold ourselves accountable throughout the new year which could lead us to observe urges to avoid or overdo. In DBT we hold the idea that change is the only constant. We are changing all the time. For example, you are a bit older than you were when you started reading this Inspiration. With change being the only constant, know that each moment is also a new moment. We are surrounded by newness every day. For those who feel fear in the face of newness, it would be helpful to consider the pros and cons of turning your mind to radical acceptance of such newness.
As we enter into the new year, if you are noticing an urge to avoid facing newness or the urge to overdo your goals, let’s think about our wise minds. Can you practice self-compassion and lean into the F in FAIR (being fair to yourself)?
Basically, check-in with yourself and commit to a new change or experience that feels reasonable. What is a bite-size experience of newness that you can fully participate in this week? Could it be listening to a new podcast, trying a new recipe, or exploring a new activity. Maybe it is a willingness to work on a behavior or to focus on turning your mind to radical acceptance of newness. We of course can then increase our commitment over time. This is building mastery!
We are excited to hear about your examples of effectively leaning into newness as we enter into 2022.
Happy New Year!
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